Sister Spotlight: Jane Rosen

 

Jane Rosen, an alumna from the Delta Xi chapter at The University of Maryland, published a new book this year! Eliza Starts a Rumor is a story centered around sisterhood. Jane attributes a great deal of what she learned about sisterhood from her undergraduate experience in Delta Phi Epsilon. Reflecting on her experience, she stated “Being in a house with so many different women from all of the country was eye opening -our similarities always far outweighed the differences.” To this day, Jane feels a special bond with her chapter sisters and knows she can depend on them to have her back.

Eliza Starts a Rumor is a fast-paced story of four women coming together to face their pasts and forge their futures. Through sharing their secrets, betrayals and triumphs, they emerge renewed in this joyful celebration of female friendship. Eliza Hunt has a big problem—since her twins left for college she has barely been able to leave her Hudson Valley home. Desperate for connection, she invents a salacious post on a local bulletin board. But is there more truth to it than she knows? Olivia York, a young mom across town, thinks the scandalous story is about her marriage. Alison Le, a single mother navigating life with a newborn in a new town, finds helping Olivia easier than facing her own relationship problems. Amanda Cole, Eliza’s childhood friend, returns from LA amidst her husband’s #MeToo scandal. She may just hold the key to why Eliza can’t leave the house.  All it takes is one rumor, and four lives will never be the same.

The four main characters each bring a different set of life experiences to the book. Jane gained inspiration for the characters from her friends and DPhiE sisters. She stated that she “tapped into aspects of the characters of the women in my own sisterhood. I thought about how they dealt with the ups and downs of their lives, and how much better they handled things when they were able to depend on one another.”

Her inspiration for the begin by wanting to tell a story that dove into the shared female experience. Like many women, Jane spent too much time scrolling through online groups just as in the novel. She stated, “Sometimes I jump on and just get lost in them, sometimes I comment, sometimes I get caught up in an intense back and forth between members, and sometimes I seek out other women’s advice on a topic I need help with.” After connecting with other women in this department, she realized she wasn’t alone. The quick reply and interest in online women’s groups inspired her to write Eliza Starts a Rumor.

The novel is centered around sisterhood, so we asked Jane to share her favorite DPhiE memory:

“ It was the 80’s so we did everything big—big hair, big homecoming floats, big football games, big theme parties and crush parties and formals. It all began with a big pledge night where the pledge class was sent on a massive scavenger hunt in the DC area while the sisters prepared the house. I was part of the group sent to Georgetown where we were instructed, amongst other things, to get our hair sprayed purple and our make-up done at a famous punk rock store, Commander Salamander. On our way home our car died right in front of the White House. With nowhere else to go we went to the gate and asked for help. At this point we were late and as you can imagine, that was our biggest concern. We forgot all about our punk rock hair and make-up. The Marines that stood guard were quick to remind us and even called up the then Vice-president George Bush to take a look at the crazy co-ed’s with purple hair. They put our car in press parking, got us a cab and even wrote us a note on White House stationary for our pledge captain explaining why we were late. If I remember correctly, they weren’t impressed!”

For sisters who dream of writing their own book, Jane encourages you to “write your first draft like no one is reading it and don’t stop until you are done.Then rewrite, rewrite, rewrite. And then show it to one of your sisters for an honest opinion!”

Jane’s novel can be purchased anywhere books are sold, but she has partnered with her local bookstore, McNally Jackson, which can be purchased here. Any purchases made from McNally Jackson will receive a signed copy of the book along with a special Join The Sisterhood pin while supplies last!

Join us in January for The Eliza Starts a Rumor Book chat with DPhiE alumnae and author, Jane L Rosen.


DPhiE Runs in the Family

 

Sorority sisters are like family. This is especially true for the Neuburger family! Ann Neuburger, is an alumna of the Epsilon Iota chapter at The State University of New York College of Geneseo, initiated both of her daughters through the alumnae initiate program. Daughter, Erica, was initiated at the 2018 International Leadership Forum in Buffalo NY. Ann’s second daughter, Melissa, was initiated virtually this Fall virtually!

The alumnae initiate program is an opportunity for sisters to share the gift of sisterhood with a daughter, mother, sister, cousin or friend that did not have the opportunity to join DPhiE through traditional collegiate recruitment. These members embody the values and ideals of DPhiE  and have all the rights, privileges and responsibilities of alumnae members. Members can choose to sponsor someone who embodies these values and ideals, they serve as a mentor throughout the training process. 

Melissa participated in the Spring 2020 training program which was modified to accommodate a completely virtual program. Each week, the alumnae initiate class received a podcast episode focused on the areas of sisterhood, scholarship, social, service and self. They connected each week to go over the training and participate in an activity to reinforce the training process.

While the plan was for Melissa to be initiated at the International Leadership Forum in Disney world, with ILF canceled we opted for a virtual initiation ceremony! To make the ceremony special, Ann invited her chapter sisters to attend. While she did not know how many would be able to attend, she was blown away by the support her chapter sisters showed. 43 members attended Melissa’s virtual initiation ceremony to welcome her with open arms into Delta Phi Epsilon.

Now more than ever we see that sisterhood is for a lifetime and that DPhiE sisters will always come together to spread Justice, Sisterhood and Love. Congratulations on your initiation Melissa!


 


 

My First 90 Days

At Delta Phi Epsilon we have an outstanding group of eight women who are described as, “The feet on the ground”. These eight women are a part of the International Leadership Consultant Program and they spend their working days assisting all 109 chapters with their daily operations. With the new virtual operation that the ILC Program has taken, these eight women could now be described as, “The hands on the mouse”. I am honored to be one of the eight. My experience as an ILC has brought me highs, lows, lessons learned, and opportunities for growth along the way, in just my first 90 days.

One constant that helps me feel accomplished each day is goal setting. The point of setting these goals is to ensure I do not lose motivation throughout the work day. When I write out these daily goals, it encourages me to continue working throughout the day until my goals are accomplished. Likewise, when working directly with collegiate members, it is important to acknowledge when they accomplish their goals. Directly helping collegiate members reach their goals, becoming their support system at a professional level, and encouraging them to strive for excellence has been a very rewarding part of my ILC journey thus far.

 

Being an ILC, comes with some struggles to overcome. Self-doubt is one obstacle I am working on and the program is helping me to overcome. Of course with any job, or day for that matter, you have bad experiences. I have been very pleased however, that none of my bad experiences have come from any of my colleagues or any collegiate members. My bad experiences have come from two different things; wifi troubles and self-doubt. First let’s talk about the wifi troubles. Unfortunately, where I live does not have good service or a reliable wifi connection. The issue hasn’t affected my ability to get my work done, but it has been an added stressor into my work day.

Secondly, I think I speak for many people when I say that self-doubt is a common struggle. My doubts stem from feeling like I do not know enough on certain topics. Many chapters come to me with the different challenges they are facing and sometimes, I am unsure of how to help them. When I am unsure, I go to a supervisor for advice. I have been working on becoming more comfortable with slowing down my response times to find the most helpful and accurate information to send back to my chapters. This is something that I will have to continue to work on and not let my lack of knowledge in some areas determine how I feel.  No one can know every nuance of sisterhood readily.  I am starting to understand that the support system is there to lift me up and move me forward.

Even though I have only been an ILC for just over a month, I have already learned many lessons that I will be able to carry with me. The first lesson that comes to mind is setting boundaries. My work day is typically 9:00-5:00 during the weekdays. Of course recruitment workshops, LT meetings, and one-on-one with chapter officers can create the need to be flexible with my schedule. But, by setting these boundaries it gives me time to do things that I need to do for myself, things like go to the store, go on a run, or just relax in front of the TV. Almost every day that I have been an ILC, I have learned something new about myself, about the operations of Delta Phi Epsilon, and about a collegiate member with whom I am working. Learning is growing and I am sure having quite a bit of personal development in this program!

The last thing I will touch on is the opportunity for personal and professional growth that I have begun to embrace through my experience. We were able to attend a wide range of workshops during our month of training. These workshops gave me information and a perspective that I would not have received without this program. The workshop range varied from a two part Mental Health First Aid training, to a Hazing Prevention Webinar, to a workshop about Expanding Beyond the NPC Worldview. All of those listed workshops, and many others, have helped me grow professionally, but also personally.

All things considered, I would say that throughout this next year I am in for a treat. From working and guiding collegiate members, to working on my confidence, remembering to set boundaries, and to appreciating all of the opportunities for growth that I will encounter, I am excited for this opportunity that I have been given. Throughout this next year, I hope to make a positive impact on the hundreds of sisters I will meet. I hope to improve  their collegiate experience. Lastly, I hope that by giving my all to this position I will be able to grow and develop daily, professionally and personal, and as a sister in Delta Phi Epsilon.

Madison Pecht is an alumna member of the Alpha Epsilon chapter at Kennesaw State University and a current International Leadership Consultant. Madi currently lives in Georgia. 

Applications are now being accepted for the 2021 – 2022 International Leadership Consultant Program. You can learn more information and apply, by clicking here. Interested in learning more about the program and have questions answered? Join us on November 12 for an interactive webinar, “Want to be an ILC?” You can register for that here.


Next Stop: Law School

When I entered college my freshman year, I knew I wanted to attend law school. I spent my senior year focused on applying, studying, gathering recommendations and finalizing my resume. My goal became a reality when I was accepted into the St. Mary’s School of Law in San Antonio, Texas. After my acceptance, I realized that it made sense for me to defer my acceptance until the Fall of 2021 due to financial reasons. I took the opportunity to work for a year as an International Leadership Consultant for Delta Phi Epsilon to spend the year preparing for my next step, law school. For this year, I set out to gain real world experience and build a network of professionals.

As an International Leadership Consultant, I gained professional skills that directly translate to my future career as a lawyer. I treat each chapter I work with as my clients and have learned to serve them in a timely manner while providing them the tools they need to be successful. I work directly with the millennial and gen z generations and have learned the impact the present day climate has on each demographic. As a lawyer, it is imperative to have commercial awareness and know what affects current affairs will have on a client. I have learned to gauge my communication style between generations and better understand where a client is coming from.

Each meeting as an ILC requires research and project management skills. By researching prior to each meeting, I am prepared to have a productive appointment and can anticipate my clients needs. Individual meetings and group projects taught me excellent project management skills. The experience of taking a project from conception to execution is a skill that will be helpful throughout my entire professional career. I must also ensure the wording, layout, and presentation is thorough and conveys the correct message when creating resources. My experience as an ILC has shaped me for the next steps in my future by giving me practical professional skills.

Delta Phi Epsilon provided me a wide network of professionals and mentors. The support from my bosses, my fellow consultants, and my mentor Linsay Wolf have all empowered me to continue to reach for my goal. My experience as an ILC has made me feel capable and confident for the next step in my career. Joining Delta Phi Epsilon my freshman year was by far the best decision I made. I took every opportunity the organization offered me and it has given me back more than I could have imagined.

Jessie Leal is an alumna member of the Gamma Gamma chapter at Schreiner University and a current International Leadership Consultant. Jessie lives in Texas and has plans to attend Law School next year. 

Applications are now being accepted for the 2021 – 2022 International Leadership Consultant Program. You can learn more information and apply, by clicking here. Interested in learning more about the program and have questions answered? Join us on November 12 for an interactive webinar, “Want to be an ILC?” You can register for that here.


DPhiE ILC, Take Two

You just never know where life is going to take you. 

We’re all familiar with the saying but before last year, I never really identified with the phrase. I came into college with no prior knowledge of the sorority experience; unfamiliar with the recruitment process, terminology, and overall understanding of the purpose behind being a member of fraternity and sorority life. I signed up for recruitment on a whim, really just searching for a place that would provide friendship, comfort and support during my collegiate experience. 

As a current Senior International Leadership Consultant reflecting back on my collegiate opportunities, I can confidently say Delta Phi Epsilon provided all these things - in addition to leadership development, sisterhood, opportunities for growth and a sense of belonging. 

It’s impossible to touch on my ILC experience and not begin with my experiences as a collegian. As a two-time member of my chapter’s leadership team (first as Vice President of House Management followed by Chapter President) I always adored when consultants came to visit. Not only were ILCs individual DPhiE experts, but they were able to collaborate with and learn from collegians, alumnae, advisors and university administrators throughout all of North America. They could answer and ask tough questions, provide leadership development through a variety of presentations and help lift your chapter to the next level. I just knew that when I graduated - I wanted to be an ILC. 

I am so incredibly thankful for every opportunity, experience and learning moment the past one and a half years as an ILC has offered me. Throughout 2019 and into 2020, I collaborated with thirty chapters and their leadership teams on both operational and recruitment-specific visits. Although I visited some pretty incredible places (The Grand Canyon, the Upper Peninsula of Michigan in the fall, cool college towns like Athens, Georgia), I look back even more fondly on the connections I made, the stories I shared and the members, alumnae and communities I learned so much about. I still find myself Facetiming fellow consultants from last year and connecting with chapter advisors and alumnae of chapters I’ve worked with. 

Consulting this year certainly looks different than the last. None of us anticipated living and working in a virtual world. Many university campuses have gone fully remote, primary recruitments are being held completely online, and student organizations have had to pivot their operations and programming to virtual spaces. What does this mean for the ILC experience? 

This year I’m directly overseeing fourteen chapters, serving a liaison for any chapter needs and concerns, ranging from recruitment and finance to operations and programming. I’m able to create my own schedule and take part in a variety of opportunities to expand my professional portfolio. This academic term I collaborated with the Organizational Growth team and helped create the Virtual Recruitment Guide, a resource that has offered advice, tips and best practices for recruitment in today’s climate. Beyond this, many ILCs have given workshops and webinars that lie in accordance with their functional area. I know that wherever I head next after DPhiE, my portfolio will be up-to-date with materials reflective of my strengths and career goals. 

Above all, I most appreciate the true connection, sisterhood, relationships, mentorship and professional development that being an ILC brings. In times of COVID-19, it’s normal to feel confused, overwhelmed and lonely; it’s easy to think only about the things that have been postponed or cancelled. My experiences as a part of the ILC program continue to remind me of the many things that continue during this time: the love we all can extend to each other, friendship, learning, and true sisterhood for a lifetime. 

Thank you, DPhiE, for an experience I will cherish forever. From the co-workers that turned to friends, the friends that turned to family, to the members that reached out saying ‘thank you!’ for helping them with a workshop or answering a question. All have impacted me in a way that’s hard to put into words! Each moment has been full of so much happiness and joy - the future of the ILC program is bright and I can’t wait to see all it accomplishes. 

It’s true; you just never know where life is going to take you. I’m so grateful mine brought me to be a DPhiE ILC. 

Mary Kleffner is an alumna member of the Gamma Kappa chapter at Capital University and a current Senior International Leadership Consultant. Mary specializes in creating recruitment education resources and helps manage the social media account for the Delta Phi Epsilon International Leadership Consultants (@dphieilcs). 

Applications are now being accepted for the 2021 - 2022 International Leadership Consultant Program. You can learn more information and apply, by clicking here.


Reflections on my Heritage

As a younger generation Mexican American, I have struggled in different ways than most. In the movie Selena, which tells the life story of Mexican American music artist Selena Quintanilla, her father says it best. He said “Being Mexican American is tough. And we gotta prove to the Mexicans how Mexican we are, and we gotta prove to the Americans how American we are. We gotta be more Mexican than the Mexicans, and more American than the Americans; both at the same time. It’s exhausting! Man nobody knows how tough it is to be Mexican American.”

Growing up it was not advantageous to be diverse. I grew up not fully immersed in my Mexican culture. People looked down on you if you spoke Spanish, had an accent, dressed a certain way, or were Mexican. As we head into a more diverse world, this has been a struggle for me. Though there has been progress, there is still not enough representation of Latinx in politics and in various industries across the board.

As a young Mexican American, I want to be an example to young hispanic women. I also know that I am not an expert or the most accurate representation of my culture. I continue to learn about, experience, and lean into my heritage to grow. If you want to learn more, or are curious, I created this resource document. 

Delta Phi Epsilon’s mission of diversity and inclusion encourages me to further my purpose in this area. Being a first generation college student and Mexican, my family and I had absolutely no clue what a sorority was when I first joined DPhiE.

How can we take all of our cultural core values and translate them into DPHIE? How can we all educate PNMs on what a sorority actually is, instead of just assuming it is common knowledge? Acknowledging, talking, and creating small change is an incredible way to start educating our members on all of our different cultural experiences.

Jessie Leal is an alumna member of the Gamma Gamma chapter at Schreiner University and a current International Leadership Consultant. Jessie lives in Texas and has plans to attend Law School next year.


5 Bucket List Places to Celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month

Hispanic Heritage Month takes place every year from September 15th to October 15th. It begins mid-month to mark the independence of several Latin American countries but I always preferred to think it’s because, as Hispanics, we like our celebrations to have a little something extra. 

Many people are unsure which term to use when referring to the Hispanic community so let’s do a quick review. Hispanic refers to people from a Spanish speaking country, of which there are 20, from Argentina to the Dominican Republic. Latino/a or Latinx refers to people from countries in Latin America, which could include Brazil even though they speak Portuguese. For our purposes, we’ll use these terms interchangeably.

As a travel blogger, I’ve had the privilege of visiting more than 35 countries in the last 3 years. I love discovering unknown places but there’s something about being in a Hispanic country that always feels familiar. I was born in Puerto Rico and moved back to the island as an adult, where I now live full-time. I am proud of my culture and eager to share it with others. 

If you want to taste pure flavor, live life in the moment and get a glimpse of ancient civilizations, these destinations are the perfect place to celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month.  

1. Spain

Trip to Spain? Yes please! Hop aboard a cheap flight with TAP Portugal or Norwegian and head to Madrid or Barcelona, the two most popular cities. 

Both have distinct identities. Madrid is inland and is the capital city. It’s filled with posh Spaniards that stay out till 2am eating tapas and drinking sangria, only to be back at work by 10am looking impossibly fresh. There are many things to do in Madrid, from admiring art in the Prado Museum to watching a live flamenco show.. It is a metropolitan experience unlike any other! 

Barcelona, on the other hand, is located on the coast. There’s a mix of people and influences as it borders France. It’s here that you’ll find the works of Antoni Gaudí, legendary architect that made fairy tale buildings come to life. Don’t miss the Sagrada Familia and reserve your tickets ahead of time. 

Finally, those wanting to experience the Spanish countryside should head to Andalusia. Here you’ll find Moorish remnants, from Turkish baths to the famous Alhambra. 

2. Cuba

Ready to dance? You’ll salsa the night away in Havana, Cuba, at the Fabrica de Arte Cubano specifically. Everyone makes use of things instead of throwing them away in Cuba so you’ll find repurposed art is very common. For a sight, visit Fusterlandia, one artist’s home that has been covered in mosaic tile and showcases grandiose installations, transforming an entire neighborhood into a piece of art. 

Fans of Ernest Hemingway, rent a car with a private driver who can take you to his estate and show you his frequent haunts. Although once at the bar (where you’ll inevitably end up) I recommend that you skip the daiquiri and stick to the mojitos. The fresh mint used -- stem and all -- makes this version of the drink sweeter than most and a temptation you won’t be able to resist. 

3. Puerto Rico

Puerto Rico is easy to discover since it’s part of the United States — no passport needed! It’s also home to a tropical rainforest, three bioluminescent bays, one of the busiest cruise ports in the Caribbean and countless golden sand beaches. 

Most people begin their visit in San Juan. Stroll the cobblestone streets and take in the ocean air while visiting one of two fortresses in the area. For lunch, try the mofongo, a mashed plantain dish filled with your topping of choice, from lobster to veggies. 

Those wanting to explore beyond San Juan should head to the Southwest Coast. Ponce is a beautiful city with historic walking tours. You’ll find the Serralles estate here, heirs to the Don Q. fortune. You can also head to Yaucromatic, an outdoor art museum in Yauco where a residential neighborhood is painted vibrant colors. 

4. Ecuador

Ecuador has so many once in a lifetime experiences that it’s surprising it doesn’t get more attention. Located on the equator line, it is the only place in the world with a museum and monument on the line, allowing you to conduct experiments with gravity and stand in the Northern and Southern Hemisphere at the same time. 

It’s also a little-known adventure capital of the world, offering whitewater rafting, bungee jumping, ziplining and more for a fraction of the price of other operators in the mountain city of Banos. While there, make your way to the Casa del Arbol and swing off the end of the world

5. Mexico

Mexico is a dream for digital nomads and young professionals. You can find luxurious spas and lodging along the Riviera Maya and in Tulum. In the summer months, you can go swimming with whale sharks, an experience many people travel to the Philippines for. 

The food scene is top notch and I recommend indulging in street tacos whenever you get the chance. Since they cost less than $.50/each you’re practically obligated to buy more than one! No one likes to carry change. 

Up for a road trip? Visit one of the new World Wonders at Chitchen Itza. There are also smaller sites nearby that you can explore more freely, like Ek Balam where you can still climb on the ruins. There’s also pink lakes at Las Coloradas

You’ll need more than a month to visit all the Hispanic countries in the world but this list is a great place to start.


Latinx Page Turners

During Latinx Heritage Month, we have been asking you to submit books written by Latinx writers that you could not put down! We are excited to bring you this list of recommendations from our own membership. 

If you are looking for an escape, these books have it all. From love stories to short stories, horror stories and in between - we promise you will find at least one new book to dive into. 

With Amazon Prime Days approaching, what better time to expand your library? You can even make a difference when you buy them. Simply shop at smile.amazon.com/ch/43-1661725 or with AmazonSmile ON in the Amazon Shopping app and AmazonSmile donates to Delta Phi Epsilon Educational Foundation.

They Both Die at the End, Adam Silvera
With the Fire on High, Junot Díaz
How the Garcia Girls Lost their Accent, Julia Alvarez
Dominicana, Angie Cruz
I’m Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter, Erika Sánchez
The Circuit Books, Francisco Jiménez
Esperanza Rising, Pam Muñoz Ryan
The Story of my Teeth, Valeria Luiselli 
The House on Mango Street, Sandra Cisneros
Clap When you Land, Elizabeth Acevedo
You had me at Hola, Alexis Daria
In the Time of Butterflies, Julia Alvarez
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, Junot Díaz
This is How you Lose Her, Junot Díaz


Hispanic vs Latinx

The terms were adopted in the United States in an attempt to loosely group immigrants and their descendants that arrived in the US from Latin America. The terms were and sometimes still are used interchangeably. The categories only refer to a person’s origin and ancestral background. The terms have since evolved. In an overly simplistic way, the term Hispanic refers more to language while Latinx refers more to culture.

Latino is from the Spanish (or Portuguese) latino americano and refers to those from Latin American countries who speak romance languages like Spanish, Portuguese, or French. Hispanic is generally accepted as a narrower term that refers to people who descend from Spanish speaking countries.

As with any personal identifying factor the individual can choose to identify as both, either, or none even if they meet the “textbook definition” of either term.


National Hispanic Heritage Month / Mes Nacional de la Herencia Hispana

Celebrated in the United States from September 15 to October 15
Celebrado en los Estados Unidos el 15 de septiembre al 15 de octubre

“National Hispanic Heritage Month traditionally honors the cultures and contributions of both Hispanic and Latino Americans ...” (www.hispanicheritagemonth.gov)
El Mes Nacional de la Herencia Hispana celebra las contribuciones de los hispanos y latino americanos.

Hispanic heritage month had its origin in 1968 when Congress passed Public Law 90-498 designating a Hispanic Heritage Week. The week was then extended to a month in 1988 by a superseding law.
El mes de la herencia hispana comenzó como la semana de la herencia hispana en 1968 cuando el congreso pasó la ley pública 90-498. La semana fue extendida a un mes en 1988 por un ley que reemplazó la ley anterior.

September 15 was picked because it was the independence day for a large number of Hispanic countries – Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, and Nicaragua. Additionally, Mexico’s Independence on September 16. Today the list includes the independence days of Brazil and Chile celebrated on September 7 and September 18 respectively.
Inicialmente la fecha del 15 de septiembre fue escogida por la independencia de Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras y Nicaragua en esa fecha y la independencia de México el 16 de septiembre. Hoy incluimos la celebración de la independencia de Brasil celebrado el 7 de septiembre y de Chile celebrado el 18 de septiembre.

Canada celebrates Latin American Heritage Month in the month of October.
Canadá celebra el Mes de la Herencia Latino Americana en el mes de Octubre.

Sources/ Fuentes de información:
https://www.hispanicheritagemonth.gov/
https://www.loc.gov/law/help/commemorative-observations/hispanic-heritage.php
https://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/L-6.4/page-1.html